It seems kind of cliche to say a good relationship must communicate to be successful. I’ve experienced in life where I have been reluctant to say what is on my mind. The shyness, in my opinion is a product of my past. I’m confident that for most all of us, there have been times when as children we would share something and were scolded, put, down, and even yelled at for saying what was on our mind, not meaning any harm in what it was we were saying.
I was maybe ten years old, my family was on vacation in Indiana. We were visiting a family that was extremely close to our parents. In Indiana, they have basements, something that homes in California don’t have. This home had a wonderful game room downstairs, the room had a pool and table tennis table. For a ten-year old it was the best room ever! The basement had rather plain wooden stairs. In my mind, I decided to give the room and our host family a compliment. I said, “these stairs don’t give the room justice.” My brother dan who was 19, (nine years older than me) quickly and strongly shushed me. I never forgot that. To this day I feel, I said something terribly wrong. I was happy and wanting to add a compliment. Suddenly rather than giving a compliment, I had done something horribly wrong and insulting to my parents best friends. To this day I’m reluctant to say something without considering how it might be received, and would I get in trouble for saying whatever it is I’m considering saying.
I have developed a fear of fully expressing myself. I have a fear that I’ll be rejected for stating my thoughts, opinions, and beliefs. I have a fear of rejection.
If you are shopping for a home, a fear of expressing your thoughts, opinions, and beliefs is a recipe for disaster. You may end up buying the wrong house! You may waste time looking for the type of property you have no intention of buying. You may be opening yourself up for relationship problems.
When you experience and use the Crystallization process you won’t have this problem. The Crystallization process is a process that ALL my clients go through prior to seriously looking for their dream home. The process does exactly what the name implies, it makes it crystal clear what type of home you are looking for. At the end of the process, you and your significant other will be clear on what you BOTH are looking for in a home. What needs to be shared, will be shared. The inclination to hold back will be broken, and clear communication of what type of home you desire will be communicated.
With clear communication, you won’t waste time looking for the wrong type of property. You will avoid the catastrophic possibility of buying the wrong house. And, you will not have unclear communication be a catalyst for arguments and more with your loved ones. You will find and buy the perfect home for both of you.
For more information on the Crystallization process, please see the video on the subject in this blog or widow sections of this website, dklhomes.com, or call, text, or email to schedule a Buyer Empowerment consultation.
David Kline Lovett
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